{"id":2564,"date":"2019-03-20T02:30:53","date_gmt":"2019-03-20T02:30:53","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/svmarriagecoun.wpengine.com\/?p=2564"},"modified":"2019-04-13T12:07:59","modified_gmt":"2019-04-13T12:07:59","slug":"dealing-with-refusal-what-if-he-she-says-no","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/dealing-with-refusal-what-if-he-she-says-no\/","title":{"rendered":"Dealing with Refusal: What if He \/ She Says No?"},"content":{"rendered":"

Love has many forms when it comes to the feeling from one human to another. There can be love between parents and their offspring, love between siblings, love between friends and so on. The word love<\/i><\/em>\u00a0however, is used in a particularly special sense when it comes to relationships<\/u><\/a>.<\/p>\n

<\/p>\n

Intimacy is a basic human need and romantic love for anyone who has experienced it is an extremely powerful emotion. The thing about love and feeling the same for someone is that there are times when intensity is not matched.<\/p>\n

You may be romantically attracted to someone where, on the other hand, the love they have for you, though real and immense is simply platonic. Tricky situation that one!<\/p>\n

When Feelings are not in Sync<\/b><\/strong><\/h2>\n

\"When<\/b><\/strong><\/h1>\n

It is not uncommon for two people who engage closely to develop strong feelings for each other over a period of time. Though sometimes feelings may be matched and reciprocated, there are others when things aren\u2019t so balanced.<\/p>\n

Dealing With Refusal<\/b><\/strong><\/h2>\n

In such a situation, one individual, for lack of better word is left pining, whereas the other is either unaffected or put in a slightly awkward position. If you\u2019re someone who has developed feelings for a friend, colleague or someone in your sphere who does not feel the same, what do you do?<\/p>\n

Being Gracious<\/b><\/strong><\/h3>\n

\"Being<\/b><\/strong><\/h2>\n

The first thing you need to do if someone is not moved to be romantically involved with you is to be gracious. You\u2019re entitled to feel sad, rejected and even put off. Just make sure you don\u2019t create a ruckus about it!<\/p>\n

Being passive aggressive, being obnoxious, being rude or emotionally blackmailing the other in question is all in bad taste. If the person you had your heart on is unable or unwilling to get involved, be gracious, be polite and understand that they are well within their right to say no.<\/p>\n

Try not to Spiral <\/b><\/strong><\/h3>\n

Sometimes, rejection makes us react in strange ways. As opposed to clearing our thoughts, we obsess over the person who rejected us. Social media is terrible in such situations!<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t spend hours pining, going through old messages or stalking the person on social media. All this will only make you feel worse and dare we say \u2013 more desperate! The best thing you can do is not to spiral. If you find yourself obsessing, actively stop and do something else. Though the mind is powerful, it\u2019s you who is in control!<\/p>\n

Self-Care <\/b><\/strong><\/h3>\n

If you\u2019ve managed to be the bigger person despite having been turned down, that\u2019s great! Now, for the next step.<\/p>\n

Though acting out is not the way, we already mentioned how such rejection can and does leave one feeling small, beaten and battered.<\/p>\n

It is important at this time (as opposed to taking negative emotions out on others) to acknowledge how you feel and to proceed to look after yourself accordingly.<\/p>\n

If you need space from the person who turned you down, you have the right to politely ask for the same. Take up a new hobby. Don\u2019t socially isolate or put your life on hold. Nurture yourself like you were planning to nurture your love interest and you will feel a lot better!<\/p>\n

Professional Support <\/b><\/strong><\/h3>\n

There are times when heartbreak can be too much to deal with alone. Maybe the person who turned you down is a close friend of years. Maybe it is someone you have been crushing on for a long time or someone who gave you the impression that things might work out.<\/p>\n

In any case, if you\u2019re having trouble in dealing with whatever is happening, you can also seek professional support such as therapy. A therapist will help you process your heartbreak and connect with aspects of yourself that will help empower and heal you.<\/p>\n

Winding Down <\/b><\/strong><\/h2>\n

As a couple therapist\u00a0and marriage counselor\u00a0based in Palo Alto\u00a0who also specializes in working with anxiety\u00a0and depression\u00a0among other things, I have seen how much being turned down can break a person.<\/p>\n

Having worked with numerous men and women who have been turned down and have trouble coming around after, I have learned one thing. That is, no matter how hopeless and futile things may look at the time, there is always a way to heal and room to grow. For the most part, people overcome their emotional stuckness and proceed to find partners that are actually brilliant for them.<\/p>\n

All you need to do is be gracious, stay strong, get the help you need<\/u><\/a>\u00a0and keep your head up. What is meant to be will be!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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