{"id":3079,"date":"2022-10-08T11:17:44","date_gmt":"2022-10-08T19:17:44","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/svmarriagecoun.wpengine.com\/?p=3079"},"modified":"2025-09-08T16:29:49","modified_gmt":"2025-09-08T23:29:49","slug":"so-your-partner-is-asexual-how-do-you-cope","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/so-your-partner-is-asexual-how-do-you-cope\/","title":{"rendered":"So Your Partner is Asexual \u2014 How Do You Cope?"},"content":{"rendered":"

You thought you\u2019d finally found your soulmate\u2014only to find out that they\u2019re asexual. What do you do now?<\/span><\/p>\n

Asexuality is sometimes referred to as ace; people who are asexual feel little or no sexual desires, even to partners they may connect to emotionally. Their lack of desire causes all kinds of complications in their sexual relationships.<\/span><\/p>\n

So, what can you do when you find out your partner is asexual? Let\u2019s take a look:<\/span><\/p>\n

<\/p>\n

Can Asexual People Have Sex? Does This Make a Husband and Wife Sexually Incompatible?<\/b><\/h2>\n

The idea of being with a partner who isn\u2019t sexually attracted to you is challenging to stomach for anyone, but forcing them into having sex isn\u2019t going to do you any favors.<\/span><\/p>\n

Some individuals who identify as asexual don\u2019t have any sexual desire or sexual attraction whatsoever. Some people are indifferent to the idea of sex while others are repulsed by it.<\/span><\/p>\n

Forcing an asexual partner who isn\u2019t comfortable with having sex can be devastating for relationships\u2014and wrong!<\/span><\/p>\n

For you and your partner\u2019s emotional well-being, you will have to decide whether you want to remain in such a relationship. If yes, you must determine how to meet each other\u2019s needs.<\/span><\/p>\n

Decide Whether You\u2019re Willing to Stay in a Sexless Marriage<\/b><\/h2>\n

Being celibate is a choice; asexuality isn\u2019t. Contrary to what people think, asexuality isn\u2019t a \u201ccondition\u201d that needs to be fixed. Being accepting is the key to understanding your partner\u2019s asexuality, and it does not necessarily mean you are not sexually compatible. Azizeh E. Rezaiyan is an <\/span>experienced sex therapist<\/span><\/a> and can help you work through potential roadblocks in your relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n

People <\/span>can<\/span><\/i> become asexual<\/span><\/a> due to some form of trauma in their lives, but many people asexual people are born that way\u2014and that\u2019s perfectly fine! Asexuality is a type of sexual orientation; it\u2019s the same as being straight, gay, or bisexual.<\/span>If you\u2019ve decided to stay in the relationship and remain celibate, think of how you can make it work despite your sexual incompatibility instead of trying to change your partner.<\/span><\/p>\n

Avoid Pressuring Your Partner<\/b><\/strong><\/h2>\n

\"Avoid<\/p>\n

Your partner is already living with the fact that they are different from most people; they don\u2019t need you to make matters worse by pressuring them into doing something they aren\u2019t comfortable with.<\/span><\/p>\n

When you\u2019ve decided to stay in the relationship, accept your partner for who they are and quit blaming them for something they can\u2019t control!<\/span><\/p>\n

Why is Sexual Communication Important in Relationships?<\/h2>\n

If you\u2019re going to make this work, you\u2019re going to have to communicate openly with your partner about your sexual needs and how they can be met. In the meantime, you\u2019ll also have to set boundaries to ensure your partner is never uncomfortable with you.<\/span><\/p>\n

Exploring Paths to Understanding and Connection in an Asexual Relationship?<\/h2>\n

If you’re grappling with the complexities of a relationship where your partner identifies as asexual, it’s crucial to approach the situation with understanding and compassion. Recognizing and respecting your partner’s asexuality is just the first step. Exploring professional <\/span>couple therapy<\/span><\/a> can be incredibly beneficial for more in-depth support and guidance.<\/span><\/p>\n

At Silicon Valley Marriage Counseling, <\/span>Azizeh Rezaiyan<\/span><\/a>, a licensed marriage and family therapist with extensive experience, offers specialized couples therapy to help you navigate these unique challenges, such as <\/span>depression<\/span><\/a> or <\/span>anxiety<\/span><\/a>. Whether it’s working through sexual incompatibility, improving communication, or addressing any underlying issues, you’ll find a supportive environment to explore these aspects of your relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n

Consider <\/span>scheduling a free 20-minute consultation<\/span><\/a> to discuss how therapy might benefit your relationship. You can learn more about the power of marriage counseling here\u200b\u200b. To understand more about the comprehensive therapy services offered, including for couples facing unique challenges like intimacy, <\/span>check out this section.<\/span><\/a>\u200b\u200b<\/span><\/p>\n

Remember, every relationship has unique dynamics, and seeking professional guidance can give you the tools and understanding needed to build a healthy, fulfilling partnership.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

You thought you\u2019d finally found your soulmate\u2014only to find out that they\u2019re asexual. What do you do now? Asexuality is sometimes referred to as ace; people who are asexual feel little or no sexual desires, even to partners they may connect to emotionally. Their lack of desire causes all kinds of complications in their sexual […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":3081,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[9],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-3079","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-blog"],"yoast_head":"\nAsexual Relationship Coping: Understanding & Adaptation<\/title>\n<meta name=\"description\" content=\"Asexual relationship coping can be challenging. Learn to understand and adapt to your partner's needs with expert guidance.\" \/>\n<meta name=\"robots\" content=\"index, follow, max-snippet:-1, max-image-preview:large, max-video-preview:-1\" \/>\n<link rel=\"canonical\" href=\"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/so-your-partner-is-asexual-how-do-you-cope\/\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:locale\" content=\"en_US\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:type\" content=\"article\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:title\" content=\"Asexual Relationship Coping: Understanding & Adaptation\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:description\" content=\"Asexual relationship coping can be challenging. Learn to understand and adapt to your partner's needs with expert guidance.\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:url\" content=\"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/so-your-partner-is-asexual-how-do-you-cope\/\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:site_name\" content=\"Azizeh Rezaiyan Couples Therapy and Marriage Counseling\" \/>\n<meta property=\"article:published_time\" content=\"2022-10-08T19:17:44+00:00\" \/>\n<meta property=\"article:modified_time\" content=\"2025-09-08T23:29:49+00:00\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:image\" content=\"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/Your-Partner-is-Asexual.png\" \/>\n\t<meta property=\"og:image:width\" content=\"1050\" \/>\n\t<meta property=\"og:image:height\" content=\"700\" \/>\n\t<meta property=\"og:image:type\" content=\"image\/png\" \/>\n<meta name=\"author\" content=\"admin\" \/>\n<meta name=\"twitter:card\" content=\"summary_large_image\" \/>\n<meta name=\"twitter:label1\" content=\"Written by\" \/>\n\t<meta name=\"twitter:data1\" content=\"admin\" \/>\n\t<meta name=\"twitter:label2\" content=\"Est. reading time\" \/>\n\t<meta name=\"twitter:data2\" content=\"4 minutes\" \/>\n<script type=\"application\/ld+json\" class=\"yoast-schema-graph\">{\"@context\":\"https:\/\/schema.org\",\"@graph\":[{\"@type\":\"Article\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/so-your-partner-is-asexual-how-do-you-cope\/#article\",\"isPartOf\":{\"@id\":\"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/so-your-partner-is-asexual-how-do-you-cope\/\"},\"author\":{\"name\":\"admin\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/#\/schema\/person\/361a6f5f5d04e7d8aa27c23036b83595\"},\"headline\":\"So Your Partner is Asexual \u2014 How Do You Cope?\",\"datePublished\":\"2022-10-08T19:17:44+00:00\",\"dateModified\":\"2025-09-08T23:29:49+00:00\",\"mainEntityOfPage\":{\"@id\":\"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/so-your-partner-is-asexual-how-do-you-cope\/\"},\"wordCount\":679,\"commentCount\":0,\"publisher\":{\"@id\":\"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/#organization\"},\"image\":{\"@id\":\"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/so-your-partner-is-asexual-how-do-you-cope\/#primaryimage\"},\"thumbnailUrl\":\"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/Your-Partner-is-Asexual.png\",\"articleSection\":[\"Blog\"],\"inLanguage\":\"en\",\"potentialAction\":[{\"@type\":\"CommentAction\",\"name\":\"Comment\",\"target\":[\"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/so-your-partner-is-asexual-how-do-you-cope\/#respond\"]}]},{\"@type\":\"WebPage\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/so-your-partner-is-asexual-how-do-you-cope\/\",\"url\":\"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/so-your-partner-is-asexual-how-do-you-cope\/\",\"name\":\"Asexual Relationship Coping: Understanding & Adaptation\",\"isPartOf\":{\"@id\":\"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/#website\"},\"primaryImageOfPage\":{\"@id\":\"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/so-your-partner-is-asexual-how-do-you-cope\/#primaryimage\"},\"image\":{\"@id\":\"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/so-your-partner-is-asexual-how-do-you-cope\/#primaryimage\"},\"thumbnailUrl\":\"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/Your-Partner-is-Asexual.png\",\"datePublished\":\"2022-10-08T19:17:44+00:00\",\"dateModified\":\"2025-09-08T23:29:49+00:00\",\"description\":\"Asexual relationship coping can be challenging. Learn to understand and adapt to your partner's needs with expert guidance.\",\"breadcrumb\":{\"@id\":\"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/so-your-partner-is-asexual-how-do-you-cope\/#breadcrumb\"},\"inLanguage\":\"en\",\"potentialAction\":[{\"@type\":\"ReadAction\",\"target\":[\"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/so-your-partner-is-asexual-how-do-you-cope\/\"]}]},{\"@type\":\"ImageObject\",\"inLanguage\":\"en\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/so-your-partner-is-asexual-how-do-you-cope\/#primaryimage\",\"url\":\"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/Your-Partner-is-Asexual.png\",\"contentUrl\":\"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/Your-Partner-is-Asexual.png\",\"width\":1050,\"height\":700,\"caption\":\"Intimacy can be quiet\u2014care, respect, and open conversation matter most.\"},{\"@type\":\"BreadcrumbList\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/so-your-partner-is-asexual-how-do-you-cope\/#breadcrumb\",\"itemListElement\":[{\"@type\":\"ListItem\",\"position\":1,\"name\":\"Home\",\"item\":\"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/\"},{\"@type\":\"ListItem\",\"position\":2,\"name\":\"So Your Partner is Asexual \u2014 How Do You Cope?\"}]},{\"@type\":\"WebSite\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/#website\",\"url\":\"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/\",\"name\":\"Azizeh Rezaiyan Couples Therapy\",\"description\":\"Making Good Lives Better\",\"publisher\":{\"@id\":\"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/#organization\"},\"potentialAction\":[{\"@type\":\"SearchAction\",\"target\":{\"@type\":\"EntryPoint\",\"urlTemplate\":\"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/?s={search_term_string}\"},\"query-input\":{\"@type\":\"PropertyValueSpecification\",\"valueRequired\":true,\"valueName\":\"search_term_string\"}}],\"inLanguage\":\"en\"},{\"@type\":\"Organization\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/#organization\",\"name\":\"Azizeh Rezaiyan Couples Therapy\",\"url\":\"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/\",\"logo\":{\"@type\":\"ImageObject\",\"inLanguage\":\"en\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/#\/schema\/logo\/image\/\",\"url\":\"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/06\/ARCT-logo-color.png\",\"contentUrl\":\"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/06\/ARCT-logo-color.png\",\"width\":373,\"height\":63,\"caption\":\"Azizeh Rezaiyan Couples Therapy\"},\"image\":{\"@id\":\"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/#\/schema\/logo\/image\/\"}},{\"@type\":\"Person\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/#\/schema\/person\/361a6f5f5d04e7d8aa27c23036b83595\",\"name\":\"admin\"}]}<\/script>\n<!-- \/ Yoast SEO plugin. -->","yoast_head_json":{"title":"Asexual Relationship Coping: Understanding & Adaptation","description":"Asexual relationship coping can be challenging. Learn to understand and adapt to your partner's needs with expert guidance.","robots":{"index":"index","follow":"follow","max-snippet":"max-snippet:-1","max-image-preview":"max-image-preview:large","max-video-preview":"max-video-preview:-1"},"canonical":"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/so-your-partner-is-asexual-how-do-you-cope\/","og_locale":"en_US","og_type":"article","og_title":"Asexual Relationship Coping: Understanding & Adaptation","og_description":"Asexual relationship coping can be challenging. Learn to understand and adapt to your partner's needs with expert guidance.","og_url":"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/so-your-partner-is-asexual-how-do-you-cope\/","og_site_name":"Azizeh Rezaiyan Couples Therapy and Marriage Counseling","article_published_time":"2022-10-08T19:17:44+00:00","article_modified_time":"2025-09-08T23:29:49+00:00","og_image":[{"width":1050,"height":700,"url":"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/Your-Partner-is-Asexual.png","type":"image\/png"}],"author":"admin","twitter_card":"summary_large_image","twitter_misc":{"Written by":"admin","Est. reading time":"4 minutes"},"schema":{"@context":"https:\/\/schema.org","@graph":[{"@type":"Article","@id":"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/so-your-partner-is-asexual-how-do-you-cope\/#article","isPartOf":{"@id":"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/so-your-partner-is-asexual-how-do-you-cope\/"},"author":{"name":"admin","@id":"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/#\/schema\/person\/361a6f5f5d04e7d8aa27c23036b83595"},"headline":"So Your Partner is Asexual \u2014 How Do You Cope?","datePublished":"2022-10-08T19:17:44+00:00","dateModified":"2025-09-08T23:29:49+00:00","mainEntityOfPage":{"@id":"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/so-your-partner-is-asexual-how-do-you-cope\/"},"wordCount":679,"commentCount":0,"publisher":{"@id":"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/#organization"},"image":{"@id":"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/so-your-partner-is-asexual-how-do-you-cope\/#primaryimage"},"thumbnailUrl":"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/Your-Partner-is-Asexual.png","articleSection":["Blog"],"inLanguage":"en","potentialAction":[{"@type":"CommentAction","name":"Comment","target":["https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/so-your-partner-is-asexual-how-do-you-cope\/#respond"]}]},{"@type":"WebPage","@id":"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/so-your-partner-is-asexual-how-do-you-cope\/","url":"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/so-your-partner-is-asexual-how-do-you-cope\/","name":"Asexual Relationship Coping: Understanding & Adaptation","isPartOf":{"@id":"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/#website"},"primaryImageOfPage":{"@id":"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/so-your-partner-is-asexual-how-do-you-cope\/#primaryimage"},"image":{"@id":"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/so-your-partner-is-asexual-how-do-you-cope\/#primaryimage"},"thumbnailUrl":"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/Your-Partner-is-Asexual.png","datePublished":"2022-10-08T19:17:44+00:00","dateModified":"2025-09-08T23:29:49+00:00","description":"Asexual relationship coping can be challenging. Learn to understand and adapt to your partner's needs with expert guidance.","breadcrumb":{"@id":"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/so-your-partner-is-asexual-how-do-you-cope\/#breadcrumb"},"inLanguage":"en","potentialAction":[{"@type":"ReadAction","target":["https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/so-your-partner-is-asexual-how-do-you-cope\/"]}]},{"@type":"ImageObject","inLanguage":"en","@id":"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/so-your-partner-is-asexual-how-do-you-cope\/#primaryimage","url":"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/Your-Partner-is-Asexual.png","contentUrl":"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/Your-Partner-is-Asexual.png","width":1050,"height":700,"caption":"Intimacy can be quiet\u2014care, respect, and open conversation matter most."},{"@type":"BreadcrumbList","@id":"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/so-your-partner-is-asexual-how-do-you-cope\/#breadcrumb","itemListElement":[{"@type":"ListItem","position":1,"name":"Home","item":"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/"},{"@type":"ListItem","position":2,"name":"So Your Partner is Asexual \u2014 How Do You Cope?"}]},{"@type":"WebSite","@id":"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/#website","url":"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/","name":"Azizeh Rezaiyan Couples Therapy","description":"Making Good Lives Better","publisher":{"@id":"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/#organization"},"potentialAction":[{"@type":"SearchAction","target":{"@type":"EntryPoint","urlTemplate":"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/?s={search_term_string}"},"query-input":{"@type":"PropertyValueSpecification","valueRequired":true,"valueName":"search_term_string"}}],"inLanguage":"en"},{"@type":"Organization","@id":"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/#organization","name":"Azizeh Rezaiyan Couples Therapy","url":"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/","logo":{"@type":"ImageObject","inLanguage":"en","@id":"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/#\/schema\/logo\/image\/","url":"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/06\/ARCT-logo-color.png","contentUrl":"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/06\/ARCT-logo-color.png","width":373,"height":63,"caption":"Azizeh Rezaiyan Couples Therapy"},"image":{"@id":"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/#\/schema\/logo\/image\/"}},{"@type":"Person","@id":"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/#\/schema\/person\/361a6f5f5d04e7d8aa27c23036b83595","name":"admin"}]}},"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/Your-Partner-is-Asexual.png","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3079","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=3079"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3079\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/3081"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=3079"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=3079"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=3079"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}