{"id":3087,"date":"2019-10-21T11:00:40","date_gmt":"2019-10-21T11:00:40","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/svmarriagecoun.wpengine.com\/?p=3087"},"modified":"2019-10-14T11:10:59","modified_gmt":"2019-10-14T11:10:59","slug":"staying-in-an-unhealthy-marriage-for-your-kids-is-it-right","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/staying-in-an-unhealthy-marriage-for-your-kids-is-it-right\/","title":{"rendered":"Staying in an Unhealthy Marriage for Your Kids\u2014Is it Right?"},"content":{"rendered":"

No one goes into a marriage thinking they will one day come to end, but when a marriage becomes toxic and nothing can be done to savor it, it\u2019s best to call it quits\u2014especially when kids are involved.<\/p>\n

Couples often make the mistake of remaining in unhealthy relationships for the sake of their kids, however, this decision can have devastating consequences on the kids and<\/i><\/em>\u00a0the both of you.<\/p>\n

Here are just some of the ways unhealthy marriages impact your kids:<\/p>\n

<\/p>\n

1.\u00a0<\/b>You\u2019re Kids Will Be Forever Scarred<\/b><\/strong><\/h2>\n

Kids don\u2019t want to see their parents fight. Younger children may now always know what\u2019s going on, but they do sense tension. Living in a house where their parents are constantly at each others\u2019 throats or are refusing to talk to each other, causes immense confusion for kids.<\/p>\n

In such situations, they are forced to find their own ways to make sense of what\u2019s going on and often end up blaming themselves<\/u><\/a>.<\/p>\n

As a good parent, you want your kids to grow up in a loving and safe home; forcing them to stay in a toxic environment is going to scar them for life.<\/p>\n

2.\u00a0<\/b>You\u2019re Ruining Their Self-Esteem<\/b><\/strong><\/h2>\n

Unhappy parents tend to let out their frustration on their kids. When a child is being treated like a punching bag, it will<\/i><\/em>\u00a0begin to take a toll on their self-esteem. Children that are constantly surrounded by negativity tend to act out themselves in a desperate attempt to get attention and to let out some of the built-up anger.<\/p>\n

\"You\u2019re<\/p>\n

 <\/p>\n

We know from the many studies<\/u><\/a>\u00a0that have been carried out, that children who are raised in conflict-ridden homes struggle with poor self-esteem.<\/p>\n

When children are young, they work like sponges; they\u2019ll absorb the negativity surrounding them, and because they don\u2019t have the tools to process such emotions, they\u2019ll internalize them.<\/p>\n

For the wellbeing of your kids, it\u2019s better to separate and raise them in a house where they are loved.<\/p>\n

3.\u00a0<\/b>You\u2019ll Struggle to Give Your Kids The Love They Deserve<\/b><\/strong><\/h2>\n

Adults tend to underestimate how smart young kids are. As much as you try to hide it, they will<\/i><\/em>\u00a0see that you\u2019re unhappy and it wouldn\u2019t take them long to figure out that you\u2019re only choosing to stay in the marriage because of them.<\/p>\n

When you\u2019re forced to stay in a bad marriage, you do what you can to avoid your spouse. You spend as much time as you can outside the house and when you\u2019re home, you confine yourself to a closed room to avoid unnecessary conflicts. In your attempt to find some peace and quiet in the house, you end up neglecting your kids. Is that how you want your kids to be raised?<\/p>\n

All children need love and affection; if you aren\u2019t able to give them that in your home, then it\u2019s probably best to part ways.<\/p>\n

Not sure if you\u2019re ready to end things? Consider working with a relationship counselor to help you figure out the best way forward.<\/p>\n

Azizeh Rezaiyan is a marriage counselor\u00a0at Silicon Valley Marriage Counseling based in Palo Alto\u00a0in the Bay Area. She specializes in couple\u2019s counseling<\/u><\/a>, family meditation<\/u><\/a>, anxiety treatments<\/u><\/a>, and other psychotherapy treatments.<\/p>\n

Call (650) 206-9973 to book an appointment.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

No one goes into a marriage thinking they will one day come to end, but when a marriage becomes toxic and nothing can be done to savor it, it\u2019s best to call it quits\u2014especially when kids are involved. Couples often make the mistake of remaining in unhealthy relationships for the sake of their kids, however, […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":0,"featured_media":3088,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[9],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-3087","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-blog"],"yoast_head":"\nStaying in an Unhealthy Marriage for Your Kids\u2014Is it Right? - Azizeh Rezaiyan Couples Therapy and Marriage Counseling<\/title>\n<meta name=\"description\" content=\"No one goes into a marriage thinking they will one day come to end, but when a marriage becomes toxic and nothing can be done to savor it, it\u2019s best to call it quits\u2014especially when kids are involved.\" \/>\n<meta name=\"robots\" content=\"index, follow, max-snippet:-1, max-image-preview:large, max-video-preview:-1\" \/>\n<link rel=\"canonical\" href=\"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/staying-in-an-unhealthy-marriage-for-your-kids-is-it-right\/\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:locale\" content=\"en_US\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:type\" content=\"article\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:title\" content=\"Staying in an Unhealthy Marriage for Your Kids\u2014Is it Right? - Azizeh Rezaiyan Couples Therapy and Marriage Counseling\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:description\" content=\"No one goes into a marriage thinking they will one day come to end, but when a marriage becomes toxic and nothing can be done to savor it, it\u2019s best to call it quits\u2014especially when kids are involved.\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:url\" content=\"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/staying-in-an-unhealthy-marriage-for-your-kids-is-it-right\/\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:site_name\" content=\"Azizeh Rezaiyan Couples Therapy and Marriage Counseling\" \/>\n<meta property=\"article:published_time\" content=\"2019-10-21T11:00:40+00:00\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:image\" content=\"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/Staying-in-an-Unhealthy-Marriage-for-Your-Kids.png\" \/>\n\t<meta property=\"og:image:width\" content=\"1049\" \/>\n\t<meta property=\"og:image:height\" content=\"700\" \/>\n\t<meta property=\"og:image:type\" content=\"image\/png\" \/>\n<meta name=\"twitter:card\" content=\"summary_large_image\" \/>\n<meta name=\"twitter:label1\" content=\"Est. reading time\" \/>\n\t<meta name=\"twitter:data1\" content=\"3 minutes\" \/>\n<script type=\"application\/ld+json\" class=\"yoast-schema-graph\">{\"@context\":\"https:\/\/schema.org\",\"@graph\":[{\"@type\":\"Article\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/staying-in-an-unhealthy-marriage-for-your-kids-is-it-right\/#article\",\"isPartOf\":{\"@id\":\"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/staying-in-an-unhealthy-marriage-for-your-kids-is-it-right\/\"},\"author\":{\"name\":\"\",\"@id\":\"\"},\"headline\":\"Staying in an Unhealthy Marriage for Your Kids\u2014Is it Right?\",\"datePublished\":\"2019-10-21T11:00:40+00:00\",\"mainEntityOfPage\":{\"@id\":\"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/staying-in-an-unhealthy-marriage-for-your-kids-is-it-right\/\"},\"wordCount\":569,\"commentCount\":0,\"publisher\":{\"@id\":\"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/#organization\"},\"image\":{\"@id\":\"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/staying-in-an-unhealthy-marriage-for-your-kids-is-it-right\/#primaryimage\"},\"thumbnailUrl\":\"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/Staying-in-an-Unhealthy-Marriage-for-Your-Kids.png\",\"articleSection\":[\"Blog\"],\"inLanguage\":\"en\",\"potentialAction\":[{\"@type\":\"CommentAction\",\"name\":\"Comment\",\"target\":[\"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/staying-in-an-unhealthy-marriage-for-your-kids-is-it-right\/#respond\"]}]},{\"@type\":\"WebPage\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/staying-in-an-unhealthy-marriage-for-your-kids-is-it-right\/\",\"url\":\"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/staying-in-an-unhealthy-marriage-for-your-kids-is-it-right\/\",\"name\":\"Staying in an Unhealthy Marriage for Your Kids\u2014Is it Right? - Azizeh Rezaiyan Couples Therapy and Marriage Counseling\",\"isPartOf\":{\"@id\":\"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/#website\"},\"primaryImageOfPage\":{\"@id\":\"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/staying-in-an-unhealthy-marriage-for-your-kids-is-it-right\/#primaryimage\"},\"image\":{\"@id\":\"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/staying-in-an-unhealthy-marriage-for-your-kids-is-it-right\/#primaryimage\"},\"thumbnailUrl\":\"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/Staying-in-an-Unhealthy-Marriage-for-Your-Kids.png\",\"datePublished\":\"2019-10-21T11:00:40+00:00\",\"description\":\"No one goes into a marriage thinking they will one day come to end, but when a marriage becomes toxic and nothing can be done to savor it, it\u2019s best to call it quits\u2014especially when kids are involved.\",\"breadcrumb\":{\"@id\":\"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/staying-in-an-unhealthy-marriage-for-your-kids-is-it-right\/#breadcrumb\"},\"inLanguage\":\"en\",\"potentialAction\":[{\"@type\":\"ReadAction\",\"target\":[\"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/staying-in-an-unhealthy-marriage-for-your-kids-is-it-right\/\"]}]},{\"@type\":\"ImageObject\",\"inLanguage\":\"en\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/staying-in-an-unhealthy-marriage-for-your-kids-is-it-right\/#primaryimage\",\"url\":\"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/Staying-in-an-Unhealthy-Marriage-for-Your-Kids.png\",\"contentUrl\":\"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/Staying-in-an-Unhealthy-Marriage-for-Your-Kids.png\",\"width\":1049,\"height\":700,\"caption\":\"Staying in an Unhealthy Marriage for Your Kids\"},{\"@type\":\"BreadcrumbList\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/staying-in-an-unhealthy-marriage-for-your-kids-is-it-right\/#breadcrumb\",\"itemListElement\":[{\"@type\":\"ListItem\",\"position\":1,\"name\":\"Home\",\"item\":\"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/\"},{\"@type\":\"ListItem\",\"position\":2,\"name\":\"Staying in an Unhealthy Marriage for Your Kids\u2014Is it Right?\"}]},{\"@type\":\"WebSite\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/#website\",\"url\":\"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/\",\"name\":\"Azizeh Rezaiyan Couples Therapy\",\"description\":\"Making Good Lives Better\",\"publisher\":{\"@id\":\"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/#organization\"},\"potentialAction\":[{\"@type\":\"SearchAction\",\"target\":{\"@type\":\"EntryPoint\",\"urlTemplate\":\"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/?s={search_term_string}\"},\"query-input\":{\"@type\":\"PropertyValueSpecification\",\"valueRequired\":true,\"valueName\":\"search_term_string\"}}],\"inLanguage\":\"en\"},{\"@type\":\"Organization\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/#organization\",\"name\":\"Azizeh Rezaiyan Couples Therapy\",\"url\":\"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/\",\"logo\":{\"@type\":\"ImageObject\",\"inLanguage\":\"en\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/#\/schema\/logo\/image\/\",\"url\":\"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/06\/ARCT-logo-color.png\",\"contentUrl\":\"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/06\/ARCT-logo-color.png\",\"width\":373,\"height\":63,\"caption\":\"Azizeh Rezaiyan Couples Therapy\"},\"image\":{\"@id\":\"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/#\/schema\/logo\/image\/\"}}]}<\/script>\n<!-- \/ Yoast SEO plugin. -->","yoast_head_json":{"title":"Staying in an Unhealthy Marriage for Your Kids\u2014Is it Right? - Azizeh Rezaiyan Couples Therapy and Marriage Counseling","description":"No one goes into a marriage thinking they will one day come to end, but when a marriage becomes toxic and nothing can be done to savor it, it\u2019s best to call it quits\u2014especially when kids are involved.","robots":{"index":"index","follow":"follow","max-snippet":"max-snippet:-1","max-image-preview":"max-image-preview:large","max-video-preview":"max-video-preview:-1"},"canonical":"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/staying-in-an-unhealthy-marriage-for-your-kids-is-it-right\/","og_locale":"en_US","og_type":"article","og_title":"Staying in an Unhealthy Marriage for Your Kids\u2014Is it Right? - Azizeh Rezaiyan Couples Therapy and Marriage Counseling","og_description":"No one goes into a marriage thinking they will one day come to end, but when a marriage becomes toxic and nothing can be done to savor it, it\u2019s best to call it quits\u2014especially when kids are involved.","og_url":"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/staying-in-an-unhealthy-marriage-for-your-kids-is-it-right\/","og_site_name":"Azizeh Rezaiyan Couples Therapy and Marriage Counseling","article_published_time":"2019-10-21T11:00:40+00:00","og_image":[{"width":1049,"height":700,"url":"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/Staying-in-an-Unhealthy-Marriage-for-Your-Kids.png","type":"image\/png"}],"twitter_card":"summary_large_image","twitter_misc":{"Est. reading time":"3 minutes"},"schema":{"@context":"https:\/\/schema.org","@graph":[{"@type":"Article","@id":"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/staying-in-an-unhealthy-marriage-for-your-kids-is-it-right\/#article","isPartOf":{"@id":"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/staying-in-an-unhealthy-marriage-for-your-kids-is-it-right\/"},"author":{"name":"","@id":""},"headline":"Staying in an Unhealthy Marriage for Your Kids\u2014Is it Right?","datePublished":"2019-10-21T11:00:40+00:00","mainEntityOfPage":{"@id":"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/staying-in-an-unhealthy-marriage-for-your-kids-is-it-right\/"},"wordCount":569,"commentCount":0,"publisher":{"@id":"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/#organization"},"image":{"@id":"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/staying-in-an-unhealthy-marriage-for-your-kids-is-it-right\/#primaryimage"},"thumbnailUrl":"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/Staying-in-an-Unhealthy-Marriage-for-Your-Kids.png","articleSection":["Blog"],"inLanguage":"en","potentialAction":[{"@type":"CommentAction","name":"Comment","target":["https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/staying-in-an-unhealthy-marriage-for-your-kids-is-it-right\/#respond"]}]},{"@type":"WebPage","@id":"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/staying-in-an-unhealthy-marriage-for-your-kids-is-it-right\/","url":"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/staying-in-an-unhealthy-marriage-for-your-kids-is-it-right\/","name":"Staying in an Unhealthy Marriage for Your Kids\u2014Is it Right? - Azizeh Rezaiyan Couples Therapy and Marriage Counseling","isPartOf":{"@id":"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/#website"},"primaryImageOfPage":{"@id":"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/staying-in-an-unhealthy-marriage-for-your-kids-is-it-right\/#primaryimage"},"image":{"@id":"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/staying-in-an-unhealthy-marriage-for-your-kids-is-it-right\/#primaryimage"},"thumbnailUrl":"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/Staying-in-an-Unhealthy-Marriage-for-Your-Kids.png","datePublished":"2019-10-21T11:00:40+00:00","description":"No one goes into a marriage thinking they will one day come to end, but when a marriage becomes toxic and nothing can be done to savor it, it\u2019s best to call it quits\u2014especially when kids are involved.","breadcrumb":{"@id":"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/staying-in-an-unhealthy-marriage-for-your-kids-is-it-right\/#breadcrumb"},"inLanguage":"en","potentialAction":[{"@type":"ReadAction","target":["https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/staying-in-an-unhealthy-marriage-for-your-kids-is-it-right\/"]}]},{"@type":"ImageObject","inLanguage":"en","@id":"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/staying-in-an-unhealthy-marriage-for-your-kids-is-it-right\/#primaryimage","url":"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/Staying-in-an-Unhealthy-Marriage-for-Your-Kids.png","contentUrl":"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/Staying-in-an-Unhealthy-Marriage-for-Your-Kids.png","width":1049,"height":700,"caption":"Staying in an Unhealthy Marriage for Your Kids"},{"@type":"BreadcrumbList","@id":"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/staying-in-an-unhealthy-marriage-for-your-kids-is-it-right\/#breadcrumb","itemListElement":[{"@type":"ListItem","position":1,"name":"Home","item":"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/"},{"@type":"ListItem","position":2,"name":"Staying in an Unhealthy Marriage for Your Kids\u2014Is it Right?"}]},{"@type":"WebSite","@id":"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/#website","url":"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/","name":"Azizeh Rezaiyan Couples Therapy","description":"Making Good Lives Better","publisher":{"@id":"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/#organization"},"potentialAction":[{"@type":"SearchAction","target":{"@type":"EntryPoint","urlTemplate":"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/?s={search_term_string}"},"query-input":{"@type":"PropertyValueSpecification","valueRequired":true,"valueName":"search_term_string"}}],"inLanguage":"en"},{"@type":"Organization","@id":"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/#organization","name":"Azizeh Rezaiyan Couples Therapy","url":"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/","logo":{"@type":"ImageObject","inLanguage":"en","@id":"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/#\/schema\/logo\/image\/","url":"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/06\/ARCT-logo-color.png","contentUrl":"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/06\/ARCT-logo-color.png","width":373,"height":63,"caption":"Azizeh Rezaiyan Couples Therapy"},"image":{"@id":"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/#\/schema\/logo\/image\/"}}]}},"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/Staying-in-an-Unhealthy-Marriage-for-Your-Kids.png","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3087","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=3087"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3087\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/3088"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=3087"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=3087"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=3087"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}