{"id":3713,"date":"2020-02-14T13:00:42","date_gmt":"2020-02-14T13:00:42","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/svmarriagecoun.wpengine.com\/?p=3713"},"modified":"2020-02-06T16:19:02","modified_gmt":"2020-02-06T16:19:02","slug":"what-emotional-unavailability-signals-in-your-relationship","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/what-emotional-unavailability-signals-in-your-relationship\/","title":{"rendered":"What Emotional Unavailability Signals in Your Relationship"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Relationships with emotionally unavailable partners can be extremely draining and unhealthy in the long run. Their emotional distance\u2014and its signs absence, criticism, anger\u2014may cause you to feel terribly withdrawn, isolated, rejected, and unimportant.<\/p>\n<p>Here\u2019s what emotional unavailability signals in your relationship.<\/p>\n<p><!--more--><\/p>\n<h3><strong><b>Your Partner May Need You To Listen and Understand<\/b><\/strong><\/h3>\n<p>Dealing with an emotionally unavailable partner often requires support and empathy, not intrusive questions or defensive behavior. Emotional unavailability is often a symptom of childhood trauma. Considering this is the case, you should take care when bringing up the subject of emotional unavailability with your partner. Be gentle and avoid probing. Create a healthy environment where they feel comfortable sharing their feelings, fears, and frustrations.<\/p>\n<h3><strong><b>It Affects the Children<\/b><\/strong><\/h3>\n<p>Emotionally distant parents unwittingly influence their children in unhealthy ways. It affects their attachment styles and adult relationships. It may negatively affect their mental health and cause them to develop self-esteem issues. Psychological issues may <a href=\"https:\/\/www.childwelfare.gov\/pubpdfs\/long_term_consequences.pdf\"><u>pave the way for substance abuse<\/u><\/a>\u00a0later on in life.<\/p>\n<p><img fetchpriority=\"high\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-3715\" src=\"https:\/\/https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/unhappy-couple-with-bills-and-laptops-in-kitchen.png\" alt=\"unhappy couple with bills and laptops in kitchen\" width=\"1000\" height=\"666\" srcset=\"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/unhappy-couple-with-bills-and-laptops-in-kitchen.png 1000w, https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/unhappy-couple-with-bills-and-laptops-in-kitchen-300x200.png 300w, https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/unhappy-couple-with-bills-and-laptops-in-kitchen-768x511.png 768w, https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/unhappy-couple-with-bills-and-laptops-in-kitchen-750x500.png 750w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1000px) 100vw, 1000px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Children who grow up with emotionally distant mothers find themselves with trust issues when forming relationships with people in their adult lives. They find it difficult to sustain connections. They have trouble identifying emotions and feelings. They tend to display a <a href=\"https:\/\/www.psychologytoday.com\/intl\/blog\/tech-support\/201906\/how-recover-emotionally-unavailable-mother\"><u>fearful-avoidant or dismissive-avoidant attachment style<\/u><\/a>.<\/p>\n<h3><strong><b>It May Be You, Not Them<\/b><\/strong><\/h3>\n<p>Without invalidating your own feelings about your relationship and your partner\u2019s emotional unavailability, it\u2019s worth assessing your own role and behavior. It\u2019s often easy to push the blame on one\u2019s partner, and harder to acknowledge how we may not be reciprocating emotion the way we think we do.<\/p>\n<p>When people scrutinize and monitor their partner\u2019s behavior for their level of presence and availability, they ironically lose the capacity to be emotionally receptive to their partner\u2019s needs. If you find yourself being almost hypervigilant with your partner, you may in fact be the one who isn\u2019t available. Constant monitoring may even cause your partner to become defensive and retreat even further. It doesn\u2019t cultivate a healthy and supportive environment for closeness and emotional intimacy.<\/p>\n<p><em><i>If you and your partner require help in communicating your feelings, expectations, and fears, you should consider professional <\/i><\/em><a href=\"https:\/\/https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/\/couples-counseling\/\"><em><u><i>couples counseling<\/i><\/u><\/em><\/a><em><i>.<\/i><\/em><\/p>\n<p><em><i>As one of the top <\/i><\/em><em><i>marriage and <\/i><\/em><a href=\"https:\/\/https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/\/family-mediation\/\"><em><u><i>family therapist<\/i><\/u><\/em><em><u><i>s<\/i><\/u><\/em><\/a><em><i>\u00a0and couples counselors in the <\/i><\/em><em><i>Bay Area<\/i><\/em><em><i>, Azizeh is more than qualified to help you and your partner develop the communicative tools and mutual respect needed to understand and love one another.<\/i><\/em><\/p>\n<p><em><i>\u00a0Call <\/i><\/em><a href=\"tel:6502069973\"><u>(<\/u><em><u><i>650) 206-9973<\/i><\/u><\/em><\/a><em><i>\u00a0to schedule a free 20-minutes consultation.<\/i><\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Relationships with emotionally unavailable partners can be extremely draining and unhealthy in the long run. Their emotional distance\u2014and its signs absence, criticism, anger\u2014may cause you to feel terribly withdrawn, isolated, rejected, and unimportant. 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