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The trauma you experience can have a profound impact on your life. Almost 70 percent<\/u><\/a>\u00a0of American adults claim they\u2019ve experienced at least one traumatic event in their lives. Take a moment to think about it\u2014that\u2019s over 200 million people who are constantly navigating their lives through the lens of their traumatic past.<\/p>\n

Trauma can stem from various lifetime experiences; they may be one-time incidents or repetitive events that lasted a long time. Either way, the insidious impact of trauma can hover over you for the rest of life, and you may not even realize it.<\/p>\n

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How does trauma affect your relationship?<\/b><\/strong><\/h2>\n

Trauma doesn\u2019t just affect your psychological wellbeing, it can also take a toll on your physical and emotional welfare. The subtle impacts of trauma<\/u><\/a>\u00a0can continue to cause ripples throughout your life.<\/p>\n

Many survivors of trauma live with emotional dysregulation, feelings of numbness, physical distress and ailments, sleep disorders, altered cognitive functioning, and behavioral changes.<\/p>\n

As someone whose idea of reality is so inextricably tied to their trauma, you may not even realize the ways you cope with it. However, it can seep into the very fabric of your intimate relationships, causing challenges along the way.<\/p>\n

Not opening up to your spouse or partner about your past traumatic experiences can hold you back from receiving the nurturing support of a loved one. Whether it\u2019s difficult to recall those incidents or you\u2019re too embarrassed to talk about them with your spouse, your past can hinder your present and future relationships.<\/p>\n

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Learn to unburden yourself<\/b><\/strong><\/h2>\n

A healthy, loving relationship built on the foundation of mutual respect and love is beautiful. It allows you to open yourself up to vulnerabilities and forge a fulfilling bond. The sense of companionship stems from trusting your partner or spouse and becoming the best version of yourself.<\/p>\n

For someone who\u2019s had traumatic experiences in the past, however, it isn\u2019t so easy to overcome the emotional challenges along the way.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s important to remember that your relationship gives you the unique opportunity to break free from the shame spiral<\/u><\/a>. Allowing someone in and letting yourself be vulnerable can create a healthier bond between you two.<\/p>\n

Of course, talking to your spouse about your past trauma requires support, trust, and belief from both parties. A partner who assures you that your feelings and concerns are valid, instead of dismissing or minimizing them, will help you work through a recovery process.<\/p>\n

Facilitate communication with your spouse<\/b><\/strong><\/h2>\n

Communication is essential to any relationship\u2019s success, especially one where one partner is living with the lasting wounds of trauma.<\/p>\n

Seeking trauma-informed care through the help of a counselor can help you navigate the intricacies of your experiences. If you\u2019ve struggled to communicate your struggles in a healthy way, just remember that you\u2019re not the one to blame.<\/p>\n

Trauma can have a tremendous impact on every aspect of your being and a couples counselor can help you and your spouse make sense of it. In the safe space, you\u2019ll be able to voice your feelings and discuss the challenges you face.<\/p>\n

When you begin your recovery journey and find the support you need, you can heal from the complex traumas that have held you back. Your partner may not be equipped to help you through the process, but their constant love and support will take a burden off your shoulders.<\/p>\n

Develop the tools to improve communication with Dr. Azizeh E. Rezaiyan. As a marriage\u00a0and relationship counselor<\/u><\/a>\u00a0in the Bay Area, she can guide you to the potential paths to recovery.<\/p>\n

Seeking the help of a counselor is a great start. Get in touch with us at Silicon Valley Marriage Counseling<\/u><\/a>\u00a0by calling at (650)-206-9973, you can schedule a free 10-minute consultation before you begin.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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