{"id":6750,"date":"2021-04-27T13:54:00","date_gmt":"2021-04-27T21:54:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/svmarriagecoun.wpengine.com\/?p=6750"},"modified":"2021-05-28T01:58:17","modified_gmt":"2021-05-28T09:58:17","slug":"3-things-to-discuss-with-your-partner-before-getting-married","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/3-things-to-discuss-with-your-partner-before-getting-married\/","title":{"rendered":"3 Things to Discuss With Your Partner Before Getting Married"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>You\u2019re in love, happy, and excited to start this new chapter of your life\u2014and when you\u2019re this love-drunk, it\u2019s easy to let a lot of things slide. But it\u2019s equally important to have those difficult, uncomfortable conversations too.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<!--more-->\n\n\n\n<p>The foundation of a solid and fulfilling relationship is your ability to work through problems and concerns together as a team\u2014and making sure you\u2019re on the same page before you commit helps. Here are some things all couples <em>should<\/em> discuss before saying \u201cI do\u201d:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Discuss your debt and financial health<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>You should <a href=\"https:\/\/www.investopedia.com\/articles\/pf\/09\/marriage-killing-money-issues.asp\">be clear and open about your debt and financial situation<\/a> with one another. Knowing where your partner stands on that front and how they\u2019re going to manage their debt, what your collective debt would be like, and how you\u2019d be dividing finances are all important matters to discuss. You\u2019ll find that it\u2019s more effective to sort out your finances before committing long-term.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\"><figure class=\"aligncenter size-large\"><img fetchpriority=\"high\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"500\" height=\"333\" src=\"https:\/\/https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/05\/marriage-relationship-engagement.jpg\" alt=\"A couple links arms, showing their engagement rings on camera.\" class=\"wp-image-6752\" srcset=\"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/05\/marriage-relationship-engagement.jpg 500w, https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/05\/marriage-relationship-engagement-300x200.jpg 300w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 500px) 100vw, 500px\" \/><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Address kids, parenting, and role division<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>It\u2019s important to talk about whether you want kids, the number of kids, caretaking duties, and how you\u2019re going to raise them: Would you <a href=\"https:\/\/greatergood.berkeley.edu\/article\/item\/how_an_unfair_division_of_labor_hurts_your_relationship\">split duties and responsibilities<\/a> between yourselves? Will you invest in childcare or be stay-at-home parents? How you\u2019ll divide work and finances while raising them?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Draw personal and emotional boundaries<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>It is important to establish personal and <a href=\"https:\/\/positivepsychology.com\/great-self-care-setting-healthy-boundaries\/\">emotional boundaries with your partner<\/a>: What are your preferences for pastimes? How you\u2019re going to give each other space? What are your expectations from each other going forward?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Couples should have healthy emotional boundaries and discuss what their needs are. Open communication is the secret to a successful healthy relationship in the long term. It may take time to develop, but it\u2019s important to get to that stage.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>If you\u2019re looking to work with a therapist who understands the complexities of human relationships and sexuality, reach out to us. <a href=\"https:\/\/https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/\/about-azizeh\/\">Azizeh E. 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