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<\/a>Sex is a wonderful thing and an essential part of human connection and relationships, but there\u2019s a world beyond the kind of sex most of us are exposed to throughout our lives. Vanilla sex, as it\u2019s often referred to, is wonderful in its own ways<\/a>, but there\u2019s so much more to explore apart from that.<\/p>\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s even more exciting when you have a partner you love, trust, and want to share this experience with<\/a>. But it\u2019s difficult to broach the subject even in the most otherwise adventurous, loving, and nurturing relationships.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So how do you go about sharing your kinks and fetishes with your partner? Here are some tips to keep in mind:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Put out feelers for the discussion<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Start small and be smart with how you bring it up. Put out feelers through film, TV, books, or casual conversation, so you know how your partner feels about it or that they know you\u2019re thinking about these things. It\u2019s probably unfamiliar and unusual for both of you if you\u2019ve never experimented with each other before, so go slow.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Be clear when communicating<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Find the right moment and communicate clearly and effectively. You don\u2019t want to overwhelm your partner or push them away, or even scare them. If you\u2019re into bondage, your partner may shy away or feel worried, so the key is to remain positive and affirmative and communicate your desires, limitations, and more.<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Give them space to process and understand<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Your partner may not react or respond the way you want at first, but it\u2019s important to give them space to process the information you\u2019ve shared. Let them know you\u2019re open to answering any questions they have and that you\u2019re willing to work to find a middle ground or starting point that they\u2019d be comfortable with.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This will give them the reassurance they need and the room to feel more at ease. They will feel welcome to try and move at their own pace.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you\u2019re looking to work with a therapist who understands the complexities of human relationships and sexuality, reach out to us. Azizeh E. Rezaiyan is one of the best <\/a>relationship counselors<\/a> in Palo Alto and specializes in sexuality counseling for couples<\/a> too. Contact us today to know more<\/a> about our services and how we can help you strengthen and improve your relationship.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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