{"id":9004,"date":"2022-03-29T14:45:00","date_gmt":"2022-03-29T22:45:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/svmarriagecoun.wpengine.com\/?p=9004"},"modified":"2022-03-28T23:53:49","modified_gmt":"2022-03-29T07:53:49","slug":"discovering-the-deeper-structure-of-regret-to-prevent-mental-health-damage","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/discovering-the-deeper-structure-of-regret-to-prevent-mental-health-damage\/","title":{"rendered":"Discovering the Deeper Structure of Regret to Prevent Mental Health Damage"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>&#8220;Do you wish you had done things in your life differently?&#8221; The answer to this question is only the beginning of regret, a strong emotion that causes feelings of repentance, disappointment, and sadness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Here&#8217;s <a href=\"https:\/\/www.psychologytoday.com\/intl\/blog\/pressure-proof\/202202\/the-4-kinds-regret\"><u>the deeper structure of regret<\/u><\/a>:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<!--more-->\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">1.&nbsp;Foundation<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>This form of regret represents a failure to comply with responsibility. Typically, this category is filled with health and finance-related incidents \u2014 &#8220;if only I hadn&#8217;t wasted all my savings on drinking the night away.&#8221;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">2.&nbsp;Boldness<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>We regret the chances we don&#8217;t take, such as starting a new business, investing in stocks, or chasing that one true love. It makes you sound like a failure, &#8220;If I would have taken the chance, it&#8217;d be so rich right now.&#8221; Fortunately, there&#8217;s an easy way to deal with inaction regrets \u2014 <a href=\"https:\/\/www.nytimes.com\/2019\/02\/07\/smarter-living\/6-steps-to-turn-regret-into-self-improvement.html\"><u>doing the undoable<\/u><\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">3.&nbsp;Moral<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>There are times when we&#8217;re forced to take the low road. 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The only way is to do better the next time if it&#8217;s a closed-door regret, but if it&#8217;s one with an open door, get moving today.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\"><figure class=\"aligncenter size-large\"><img fetchpriority=\"high\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1000\" height=\"750\" src=\"https:\/\/https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/03\/Failure.png\" alt=\"Learn from failure\" class=\"wp-image-9007\" srcset=\"https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/03\/Failure.png 1000w, https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/03\/Failure-300x225.png 300w, https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/03\/Failure-768x576.png 768w, https:\/\/cms-staginglink3.com\/aziza-client-site\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/03\/Failure-750x563.png 750w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1000px) 100vw, 1000px\" \/><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p>As Genki Kawamura said, &#8220;no matter how you look at it, life is full of regrets anyway.&#8221; But coping with regret is important for changing perspectives, showing compassion, and validating emotions. If you need help overcoming regret, reach out to the Farsi-speaking family therapist, marriage counselor, and physiologist&nbsp;operational in the Bay Area of Palo Alto, CA. &nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>With 20 years of experience, Azizeh E. Rezaiyan has founded Silicon Valley Marriage Counseling \u2014 a relationship counseling center in Palo Alto, California. 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